Felicia Chiao’s drawing: “The house is well built but the foundation is unstable” is such a brilliant metaphor for the role of attachment and personality in our psychological makeup. It’s the first 2 to 3 years of our lives that lay the foundation of our emotional lives for the rest of our lives. If were …
Try putting your finger horizontally over the middle, and see how the colours of the blocks change instantly. What before was very distinctively two colours, blend into the very same grey colour. What’s happening here? This is a great example of what is called “top down processing”. Every second of every day, your brain is …
How your brain cooperates with your mind to generate your individual reality Read More »
What forgiveness is not: It’s not the same as forgetting what happened It’s not the same as agreeing with or liking what happened It’s not the same as absolution It’s not denial It does not mean we will never again get angry about what happened It’s not something we can decide to give once and …
Even though fictional books can be wonderful, and can change the lives and thought processes of their readers, I personally rarely give myself time to read fiction. The reason being that there are so many amazing non-fiction books out there, too many for one lifetime. The book I‘ve given most as a gift, recommended and …
In my work I often use the analogy of Danaery’s dragons. If you’ve watched Game of Thrones, you know that as Danaerys’ dragons get bigger, she at one point in time stops being able to control them. She’s afraid of what they might do, and the harm they might cause, so in a desperate attempt …
Do you lock up your trauma like Danaerys locked up her dragons? Read More »
Our social network is much more important than most people realise. It is sometimes said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. It is absolutely vital for your mental and emotional health to surround yourself with the people that lift you up, not the ones that bring …
Need help developing your social connections? Try this exercise! Read More »
